A situationship is basically an almost-relationship—lots of vibes but no real commitment. If you're ready to move on, here’s how to do it smoothly:

1. Figure out what you want – Do you want something more serious, or are you just over it? Be honest with yourself before taking action.

2. Have "The Talk" – No ghosting! Let them know you’re not feeling it anymore. Keep it short, clear, and drama-free.

3. Create space – Unfollow, mute, or limit contact if you need to. It’s easier to move on when you’re not constantly reminded.

4. Avoid the “What if” trap – It’s tempting to check in or rekindle things, but if it wasn’t working before, it won’t magically fix itself.

5. Focus on YOU – Spend time with friends, pick up a new hobby, and remind yourself that you deserve something real, not something confusing.

Situationships can feel fun until they start feeling frustrating. If you're unsure whether to leave, ask yourself: Do I feel valued, respected, and happy? If not, it’s okay to walk away.

If you have more questions, please reach out to an advocate! We will help you navigate the specifics of your situationship.

• Feeling like you can’t talk with your friends or family about what’s going on for fear of shame, criticism, or no longer supporting your relationship
• Feeling like you are always apologizing, whether it be to your partner or friend or to others for their behavior
• Constant put downs, or breaking down your partner’s (or friends) confidence
• Conditional love (i.e. I’ll love you if you do x, y, and z. or I’ll forgive you if you say “I love you.”)

• You feel supported and safe being your authentic self
• You feel safe and comfortable expressing yourself, even if you don’t agree
• Your relationship has a strong foundation of mutual trust and accountability
• You and your partner are both able to openly express personal boundaries, and know they will be respected
• There is no element of fear (If I don’t do this, this will happen….)

• When you find yourself sacrificing your boundaries to make them happy
• Either partner is not feeling supported
• You feel isolated, as if you have to choose between your friend (or partner) or your friends and family

• If you find yourself doing things or acting differently than you regularly would
• You find yourself more worried about what the other person wants, versus what you feel comfortable with
• When you bring up your feelings and they tell you that they’re wrong

• You want what’s best for them, even if they are not in a relationship with you
• Love and support is not conditional (I’ll love you or be there to support you, only if you do…)

• No, you should not feel guilt. Your feelings are always valid, it’s how we move forward with these emotions that counts. It’s okay to set up a boundary by ending the relationship. It may be a personal decision, sometimes, break-ups are not necessarily a two-way decision and that’s okay.
• Although guilt is a common, normal emotion, it is a difficult one to heal from and work through. Often times, it takes additional processing of the situation to help you better understand it, to find ways to work through it. If you are having troubles processing yourself, it’s always okay to ask for help from a friend, parent, or a professional to help support you though this healing.

• Sex does not have to be part of a healthy relationship, unless it’s something that all parties want. It’s important to talk with your partner about boundaries surrounding sex to see what all parties are comfortable with, and what they are not.
• Find new common interests to focus on getting to know one another better in other ways

• That’s tough, and it’s different for everyone.
• Trust is gained over time when someone’s words match their actions.

They are consistently respecting boundaries as you present them

• Just because someone says, “You’re too much,” does not mean that you need to change, it may just mean that you are not compatible, something that is neither good nor bad.
• “Too much” is defined by everyone differently and must be defined by all parties in the relationship to fully understand limits. Depending on the boundaries expressed and established in your relationship will depend on the level of “much” appropriate in this relationship.

Anytime before your gut response to doing something is an enthusiastic YES! 

• If you consistently feel like you are being unheard and unsupported, after being acknowledged
• When you don’t feel respected or that you can openly express yourself without judgement
• When you find yourself spending more time explaining yourself, rather than doing things you enjoy

If you, or someone else, are doing something that you don’t want to be. If anyone involved in a situation expresses doubts or resists doing something, that’s the answer that should be heard.

However long it takes you to have the conversation. Entering into a romantic relationship should include getting to know where each of you stand on the different aspects of being in a relationship. What’s normal for one person, might not be for others. The best way to know if you are serious is to ask.